Life is too short

Why does it take a major change in our lives to realize this? I have always tried to instill in my daughters, that life is too short to worry about the little things. You were not put on this Earth to please others. You are responsible for your own happiness.

I am not saying that you need to be disrespectful or rude toward others while you are creating your own happiness. Two very important things to always remember is:

“Everyone you meet is fighting a battle

you know nothing about.

Be kind. Always”

-Ian Maclaren

“Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you”

The Golden Rule

Growing up, I struggled with always worrying what others thought of me, said about me. When I was 4, my parents divorced. I was always the “odd kid out” in school because I didn’t have a Dad. I attended Catholic school from 1st to 8th Grade. This was before it was acceptable for a single Mom to raise her children. So I dealt with a lot of funny looks, whispers. Thankfully, many of the adults at the school (both parents and staff) knew my Mom growing up and were always kind to me. There were the select few who made me feel invisible, like I didn’t exist. Funny thing happened in 1983–my Mom remarried over Summer break. When I returned to school that Fall, all of a sudden I was no longer the “odd kid out”. I now had a Mother and a Father so I was just like everyone else to everyone else. At the time, I thought it was great that I was getting all this attention. It wasn’t until later in life that I realized WHY all of a sudden they changed the way they treated me.

Through my teenage years, I still felt I had to please everyone and put them before myself. Perhaps this is just the typical mindset of a teenager. Wanting desperately for everyone to like them.

As I get older, I realize more and more that what others think/say about me is their problem not mine. Every parent wants (or at least should want) their child to live a better life than they had. So I believe that is the reason why, from a young age, I have always told my daughters that they need to focus on what makes THEM happy, not what others think they need to be happy.

If something doesn’t go your way, know that there is a reason why it didn’t go as you planned. Have faith that in time, everything will fall into place exactly as it was meant to be.

 

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2014 has come to and end, what’s next?

I always loved Christmas time when I was a child. I come from a big Irish family. We always spent so much time together especially around the holidays. As I grew older, one thing that I unfortunately had to deal with was the loss of family and friends. This made family gatherings and holidays especially difficult. That first year without them was always the worst. Trying to get used to this new “normal” wasn’t always easy. But somehow, we adapt and move on.

One of my favorite holidays is New Year’s Eve. Think about it – there are no gifts to be bought and wrapped. No decorations to put up. No stress! Just a time to gather with friends and family and reflect on the past year. I always enjoyed watching Dick Clark’s show and somehow managing to stay up late enough to watch the ball drop in NYC. Our family used to go out on the porch at midnight and bang on pots and pans and yell “Happy New Year! ” to all our neighbors. Thankfully, they all loved us and didn’t mind the commotion.

My family now gets ready for the new year with a huge buffet of food at home. We have a great time. Although some things have changed over the years, I am happy I have passed down to my girls the traditions my family has done. We may not have Dick Clark to help us ring in the new year, or all our loved ones with us like we would like them to be. But I am still thankful for the people I do have in my life. I am truly blessed with wonderful family and friends.

So now that another year has passed, it’s time to look forward. You have been given a clean slate to work with. Do not waste your time looking in the rear view mirror of life. You won’t get anywhere. My New Year’s resolutions have been the same over the last few years–I resolve to not make a New Year’s Resolution! Life is stressful enough. Just decide to make a difference every day of your life. It could be as simple as smiling at a stranger, holding the door open for someone at the store. You don’t have to be a millionaire to make a difference. You can do this!

Wishing you a Happy 2015!